A significant age difference in a relationship can create some unique challenges for both the partners. However, there is no reason why a relationship with a big age gap cannot work out, and as a relationship counselor, I have guided many couples who are not similar in age to a happy ending. In Part 2 of this series, I will be sharing some tips with couples on how to handle age difference in their relationship and overcome the challenges.

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Dealing with society: All those judgments and negative attention from people can significantly affect couples in an age gap relationship. In order to deal with the negative societal attitude towards age gap between couples, it is important for both the partners to be confident and happy in their relationship. Instead of trying hard to convince people of your relationship in spite of the age gap, try to actively demonstrate that you are happy. When people see you as a happy and loving couple, the age gap will be less noticeable and your relationship will appear like any other.


Valuing differences: Over a period of time, couples in relationships with an age gap discover that their mental age gap is bigger than they had expected. But age difference in a relationship also provides both the partners an opportunity to learn about alternative perspectives and experiences, as well as appreciate the offerings of a different generation. For instance, a younger partner can provide a more refreshing and youthful outlook to life, while an older partner can impart maturity, knowledge and wisdom. By valuing each other’s differences, a couple can learn from each other, despite different approaches. If you are in a relationship with an age gap, make an effort to bridge the mental differences by probing deeper and understanding your partner’s viewpoint.


Deciding about children: The decision to have or not to have children can make or break age gap relationships. Since the issue of children is likely to come up as a couple progresses further into their relationship, ignoring it can only create problems. If you are in an age gap relationship, it is important for you and your partner to discuss whether your future plans include children and to understand each other’s expectations.

 

To read more on this topic you may go back to part 1 where I write on the different issues that may be affected by a big age difference in relationships. 


If you're worried about your age gap relationship and would like to seek counseling, contact Orly Gueron a Licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship specialist in Aventura, FL!