In Part 1 of this series, I discussed how technology use may have negative effects on intimate relationships, particularly couples. In Part 2 of this series, I discussed how technology is hurting family relationships and the ways in which the use of cell phones inside the house is affecting family dynamics. Technology offers a powerful way for couples and families to stay connected through cell phones. But it's always-on-in-the-background nature calls for setting of boundaries on its usage and mutually agreed upon rules by couples and family members. In Part 3 of this series, I’ll be sharing some rules that all couples and families need to follow in order to prevent technology from negatively affecting their relationships.

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Reduce screen time: The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends a maximum of 1-2 hours of “screen time” per day for children and adolescents. In the case of couples, 25% of cell phone owners in a marriage or relationship feel their partners engage in too much screen time whenever they are together, as per a study by the Pew Research Center. Switch off your cell phones early in the evening so that you can spend some quality time with your children in the early evening and later with your partner.


Home use plan: Families and couples should work out a home use plan for all media, including enforcing a mealtime and bedtime “curfew” for cell phones and all tech devices. This means no television, laptop, and cell phone at the dining table when eating together, or taking the cell phone to bed.


Tech-free time: Both couples as well as families need to allot tech-free time when no devices should be allowed, such as after 9:30 PM. Spend 30 electronics-free minutes a day together to communicate, share, understand and express in order to strengthen the relationship and increase bonding.


Be a role model: Parents are important role models for their children and need to set an example by ensuring that their use of cell phones does not intrude into their family life as well. As a parent, you need to follow and respect the same set of rules and boundaries that have been set for all family members for the usage of digital devices inside the house.


Discuss important issues in person: Never discuss important personal issues with your partner or family members over the cell phone. All important discussions should be done face-to-face to avoid the communication gap that naturally occurs when texting or talking on the phone without seeing the person’s face.


If technology is affecting your intimate or family relationship and you would like professional help, contact Orly Gueron a Licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship specialist in Aventura, FL!