Betrayal can have devastating consequences on a couple relationship by creating hurt, guilt, and resentment in both the partners. Betrayal can be particularly psychologically traumatizing for the victim and can shatter the trust built in their partner over the years. Even if the damage done by betrayal to the relationship can initially appear too great to overcome, it is still possible for the couple to rebuild trust and emerge stronger than ever. In this article, I’ll be sharing 5 important steps that can help a couple survive a betrayal by restoring their lost feeling of trust and repairing their relationship.

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Commitment: It’s important for a couple to be willing to work hard and make sacrifices in order to get back the lost trust in their relationship. Even though trust can be rebuilt, it doesn’t come quickly and takes a lot of work. Be ready to invest time, patience and energy to first heal and regain balance, before you can begin regaining trust in your relationship.


Healing: If you have been the betrayer in the relationship, then you need to clearly understand the amount of emotional suffering your partner is undergoing due to your actions. Instead of urging your partner to put the pain behind them, give them time to grieve. Handle your partner’s crying, questions, judgments, and anger by reaching out to them with self-restraint, compassion, and understanding.


Be honest: Rebuilding trust after betrayal in an intimate relationship means rebuilding your credibility. If you are interested in rebuilding trust in the relationship, then your words and actions should always reflect your unwavering integrity. Avoid lying, making excuses, twisting facts or denying to prove to your partner that its completely safe for them to trust and love you again.


Always be open: Be prepared to be open about your actions if you want your partner to regain trust and confidence in the relationship. Take care not to hide anything from your partner. Make sure you are always accessible and share your location, cell phone, email and voicemail pass codes, bank and credit card statements, and everything else your partner needs to ease their insecurities and make it easier for them to trust you again.


Get help: Couples who experience an intimate betrayal usually avoid reaching out to their usual support system to avoid shame or humiliation. It can be difficult for a couple to contain the damage to their relationship caused by a betrayal without professional help. Also, if you have been the victim of betrayal, then you are more likely to need help in controlling the damage caused to your individual identity, self-esteem, and sense of security.

If you are interested in healing your relationship after a betrayal and rebuilding trust, contact Orly Gueron a Licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship specialist in Aventura, FL!