Valentine's Day is fast approaching and gives us an opportunity to demonstrate how much we love our partners by gifting them something unique and special. But choosing the perfect Valentine’s Day gift that shows how much you really care can be a tough task. In this article, I’ll be sharing Dr. Gary Chapman’s famous, “Five Love Languages” to help you decide on the perfect Valentine's Day gift for your partner.

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After years of counseling and research, Dr. Chapman discovered that there are five emotional love languages in which people speak and understand emotional love, and that everyone "speaks" a different love language to express and receive love. This Valentine’s Day, you can make the maximum impact with your expression of love by understanding the five love languages, and choosing a gift that is specifically suited to your partner’s love language.


Words of Affirmation: According to Dr. Chapman, verbal compliments, or words of appreciation, are powerful communicators of love and are best expressed in simple, straightforward statements of affirmation. If your partner speaks this love language, then they may like to hear "I love you" and "why", and you can use this Valentine's Day to let them know by appreciating them in a letter, poem, or song. You can also gift your partner a homemade anagram card with a bunch of reasons why you love them, or put together a photo album from the past with the story of your years together.


Quality time: This love language means giving your partner undivided attention by committing some time exclusively to them. If your partner's primary love language is quality time, then they just want you to be with them and spend time together. This Valentine's Day, you can do that by going on a road trip with your loved one, taking in a movie or live music performance, signing up for a dance or cooking class together, or having dinner at a new restaurant. All this will guarantee time well-spent together.


Receiving gifts: For some people, receiving gifts is symbolic of love and affection, and makes them feel most loved. If this is your partner’s primary love language, then tangible gifts are physical reminders of how much you love them, though they don’t necessarily have to be very expensive or extravagant to speak the loudest. Just make sure that a lot of love, thoughtfulness, and effort go behind your Valentine’s Day gift so that your partner feels extra loved. You can gift your partner something they have been wanting for a long time or have your gift delivered at their workplace. Freshly-cut, delivered flowers, a homemade chocolate treat, and painted handmade cards are also some meaningful or thoughtful gifts that will make your partner feel extremely loved and appreciated.


Acts of service: Actions used to show and receive love speak louder than words for some people. If your partner speaks the language of service, then accomplishing tasks for them on Valentine’s Day will show how much you love them. Serve breakfast in bed to your loved one, cook their favorite meal for dinner, or get them a gift certificate for a manicure, house cleaning service, or car wash, all of which will be considered as expressions of love by your partner.


Physical touch: Physical touch is one of the best ways to communicate emotional love and if your partner loves holding hands, kissing, embracing and getting intimate, then this may be their primary love language. This Valentine’s Day, give your loved one a relaxing massage, go out dancing together, or simply hold hands as you walk along, to make them feel loved in their language.

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