Trust holds the key to a good relationship, but some people are unable to trust their partner. As a relationship counselor, I often get clients who approach me to resolve issues that prevent them from trusting their partner. Loss of trust in a relationship can happen due to different reasons.

In Part 1 of this series, I’ll be discussing some of the factors responsible for loss of trust in a relationship and the psychological and emotional effects they can have upon an individual.

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Excessively mistrustful nature: Some people find it naturally difficult to place complete trust in their partner due to their excessively mistrustful nature. This indicates serious psychological problems as their mistrust is often shaped by past life experiences, difficult childhood, disappointments or betrayals. For instance, a person who experienced infidelity in a past relationship can transfer that fear onto a future relationship and may be unable to trust a partner.


Instant loss of trust: Some people instantaneously lose trust with their partner who may have done something that has affected the relationship negatively. One false move, such as an extra marital affair or financial cheating, can result in such profound loss of trust that your partner may find it almost impossible to ever trust you again.


Lies, lies, lies: Lying affects trust in a relationship and even if your intentions behind the lies are good, your partner can lose faith in your ability to tell the truth when the cat’s out of the bag. Both big lies as well as white lies violate trust and can hurt a relationship when the truth finally comes out.


Keeping secrets: Partners are not required to share each and every little thing with each other in a relationship, such as who you both spoke to today. But hiding things, such as secretly being with someone your partner doesn't like even if you have no intention of cheating, can make your partner doubt your loyalty and cause loss of trust.


Broken promises: Some people easily make promises to their partner without being serious about them. Many such promises may be broken unintentionally and when that happens, your partner may start feeling resentment over your ability to keep a promise and lose trust.

In Part 2 of this series, I’ll be sharing some important tips that can help bring back trust in your relationship.

If you'd like professional help rebuilding trust with your partner and repairing your relationship, contact Orly Gueron a Licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship specialist in Aventura, FL!